The only pain I knew connected to love was that of my parents separating when I was only 7 years old and knowing that I’d be their volleyball until I was old enough to pick a side or rather that was the pain good enough for my age back then until Sandiso Langa or was it until Damon Bess?
I am a 18-year-old girl doing about to do my 1st year in varsity Durban Land Surveyor. I am originally from Mthatha where i live with my mom and our cleaner sis May in Myezo. Now I’m not your typical teenager my friends say I’m sort of weird because before Durban i had never dated never kissed a boy never gotten intimate with one up until I got into a relationship with Sandiso Langa the 18-year-old Rugby Captain or as we call him “Mr Hottie Hottie Langa” my crush since grade 10 and that relationship started last year towards the end of the year. My best friend is Ayanda Ndabeni and like me she is also 18 and born on the same day as me (28 August)
My mother is Sinobomi Ndalo Ngesi she's a 38-year-old divorcee Botanist and part time lecturer at Walter Sisulu University NMD and my dad is Thandolwethu Ngesi a 47-year-old Gynaecologist who has 2 kids with his ex-girlfriend (they never married) Aluncedo who's 24 & Anathi 22. My parents got divorced when I was 7 by then Alu was 13 & Nathi 11.
Their mom died when Nathi was born so when mom married dad she married his baggage. My father resides in PE Humewood with his girlfriend or whatever he calls her.
Dad and I weren’t that close before he was more of a personal ATM than a father to me but things are good now we taking it one step at a time.
My family has had its ups and downs but today we are stronger than we were last year due to a few hiccups along the way. Last year i made peace with my molester the woman who broke up my parents marriage and now i'm ready for a clean slate in a new city exploring varsity ventures but life doesnt always go as planned. High school relationships dont always turn into marriage especially when you two study in two different provinces and can only see each other when you guys can.
I’ve experienced my fair share of life’s ups and downs but like they say Life’s a rollercoaster ride that goes up and down except this one stops the day you stop breathing. My name is Amahle Ngesi and this is my story.